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many people think that Buddhism is serious and buddhists are taught to abide rules and regulations. That includes putting others above oneself. Many youths and adults want to enjoy life, and only think of themselves. Thus, they cannot see the rationale of being caring to others to a point of sacrificing one's enjoyment and alike. This is the difference. But people are not perfect.. thats why respect for one another is very important.
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Originally posted by mr_sotong:
my sis had a chat with mum this morning and this is what she told my sis.
dad had lost some money due to economic turmoil recently. so, my dad came home everynight without initial a conversation with mum. so mum snapped last night, telling my dad that he had not have a proper conversation and eye contact for so long, so mum took out the knives n demanded that dad kill her. she blamed my dad for trusting the insurance agent too much later in the night.
also mum told my sis that she had found a receipt of a restaurant n she suspect that dad treat the insurance agent meal.
TS,i read an newspaper article regarding couple's attitude towards each other. For male, when he is tired or has suffered outside, he will keep to himself and not utter a word when he comes home. For female, if she faces same situation, she will come home complaining and screaming for attention. This is considered what a loving couple supposed to be.
For me, i feel weird about this theory. but this applies to me and my husband. BUT, this is not healthy in the long run, as in your parents situation. you have to talk to your mum and dad separately, before your dad really cannot take it and your mum lose it. Even if your dad is innocent, he may soon be not. Your mum is unstable now, its dangerous to your whole family. Try to approach your mum best friend or relatives for help and advice.
i also faced the same situation with my parents years ago. I regretted not adviseing and talking to my mum. Lucky that she has her sisters, my aunties to support her mentally.
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Originally posted by deathman:
but it wasnt totally my fault leh. i was working there for like 12 days than all the 12 days there is one staff he talk to me damn guai lan i suppose to be the promotor but ended up i throw rubbish all carrying 2 trash bag infront of customer in the hello shop. im not even suppose to do that go down rubbish chute. really no way i can get my pay?
i dont understand what you meant leh... btw its a lesson learnt. because the terms of contract stated clearly and you had signed it meaning you have agreed( obviously). and now you do not even have your punch card. how you prove you have been working in the first place?
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Originally posted by soleachip:
Welcome to the club. Experiencing a break up is very personal and intense one, *pats*
Just make up your mind about her and roll with it.
Either get over her or win her back, sounds like you want her back (very risky but what the hell) so here goes:
Chances are, it wasn't easy for her to walk away from this relationship.
It has only been a month so just take it easy for now, enjoy your singlehood, savour the change in pace. Very easy to stay friends with women after break up de, especially if they initiated (feel guilty for dumping the man) the break.
Tell her you want to be mates with her, keep it light and simple. Tell her to intro you any hot women she knows. Then rebuild your own social life, let her know that you are still a man in demand.
4 months later, by the time you realise you're still in demand and you still want her back, try getting back with her again.
Good things come to those who wait.
i dont understand what you mean. the girl is the one who initiated the breakup, not TS. no point holding to a person who can let go 3 years of relationship, and has another one within a week of breakup. you are suggesting TS should woo her back? unbelievable!
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TS, some ladies like to lead guys on. i have met a number of such during my work. you think decent good girls will hold your arm when you have just met not long ago? i do not know how long you have known each other, but you have to spend some time to observe her. is she treating the same way to the other guys? is she over friendly to the others too? you must not be too haste, cos some ladies like attention and be the center of the guys attraction. i have seen many cases like that. be careful. you are still young man.
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Originally posted by Xiao tianshi:
i never had sex on my mind..didnt even hold his hand before..but i thought in sg, there is so limited things to do..only on trip can u see the real colours of ppl, because when we encounter problems, i can see how he handle it. so.....ya..
wow power. you may not have that in mind. but knowing the guy for less than a month, met 3 times and talk on the phone you consider understand him liao. you are using yourself to risk how he going to treat you during the trip, then go ahead. deep down inside you, you will not resist him when you and him are alone overseas. lets just hope he will not disappear when both you come back to spore, if he did something to you.
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Originally posted by Xiao tianshi:
his bday is coming. n he wish to go on a short trip. maybe 2 day to malaysia. we go dutch i guess. n should be 1 room? or should i request 2 room? =x i havent gone abroad with any guy before..n never got intimate with any guy before..so how? =x i dont know how to protect myself..
you very brave, going to a trip with a guy whom you know less than a month! even years of friendship can also turn out to be a nightmare. knowing him for less than a month yet going to a trip with him alone will let him think you are not a decent girl. and you have the cheek to even ask if want to share room with him!! do that mean that you actually want things to happen? or you are really so innocent to think you so lucky to have found a upright honest guy for less thn a month??if anything happen, you are the one who give him the chance.
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i think your LOVE must be very scared to go into relationship. she knows you very interestered in her and you have been waiting for her for so long, yet she is still walking in the middle of yes or no. to this point she is still not able to trust yo the fact that she called you to check on your Love status is very obvious that she feels very insecure. Fact that you have been waiting for her and dropping hints and even confession do not improve her security. Sorry if i am wrong, but if you win her heart, you have to be prepared that she is very insecure type. she may expect a lot from you, and you must be prepared to make sacrifices for her. thats my opinion.
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Originally posted by 00king00:
u 2 are prob out of the honeymoon period le, and tis the time when he will want to find back his previous social circle outside of r/s
moreover, he's in army and can only book out once a wk, dat's why i'll expect him to want to hang out with his new buddies during the wkend.
be patient, hang on in there till he ord, by then he will hav more time for BOTH you and his army buddies
sorry to have contradict,. reading all the comments and looking at guy point of view, it is not wrong for TS bf to spend time with his buddies. they went through many things at army girls will not understand. TS you may want to compromise a bit, if you really want to make things work out for both of you. 5 years is a long journey..
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he is still not mature enough. he takes you for granted. he wants freedom when you stick to him. but at the same time, he ask you to wait for him till his ORD. during this period of time, he just want to go out with his friends, then when he got more time after he is out of NS, then he can enjoy the best of you and his friends. he is selfish in my opinion.
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most, if not all of us yearn to have a slower pace of life style and can enjoy life. many of us do not have the previlege. having to face ppl at work and have to socialise, if not you be outcast. i also dont want to entertain ppl, but thats the way of work and life. TS, think of others out there have worse experience than you. guess that will lessen your agony?
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